Firstly – values are exactly what define what is important and what you are happier to let slide. You suggest a traditional value structure but in truth our values are as individual as we are. And by getting them down on paper, defining them and then arranging them to get the results you want, you can really transform how you approach your life and the outcomes you want. Discovering you have always placed a high value on control but one of the difficulties that you always seem to have is that nothing is ever good enough, perhaps you can ask “What is I choose to value flexibility instead? Will this get me a better result?” By doing this you can rearrange your values and your sacrifices/compromises will alter as a result.

Our sacrifices – if they are in alignment with our values – make sense, but they may not to those we love who are impacted directly by them. Working hard for your family as a short term sacrifice for long term well being is not difficult to communicate of your family are along for the ride – tricky if your partner is less focused on security and more passionate about freedom.

And I love the way you have noticed that taking action is much easier (and more authentic) when you consciously act from your values – it's difficult to compromise yourself when you are speaking from this place emotionally.

Thank you for all of your comments and the thoughtful discussion Matthew!

Firstly – values are exactly what define what is important and what you are happier to let slide. You suggest a traditional value structure but in truth our values are as individual as we are. And by getting them down on paper, defining them and then arranging them to get the results you want, you can really transform how you approach your life and the outcomes you want. Discovering you have always placed a high value on control but one of the difficulties that you always seem to have is that nothing is ever good enough, perhaps you can ask “What is I choose to value flexibility instead? Will this get me a better result?” By doing this you can rearrange your values and your sacrifices/compromises will alter as a result.

Our sacrifices – if they are in alignment with our values – make sense, but they may not to those we love who are impacted directly by them. Working hard for your family as a short term sacrifice for long term well being is not difficult to communicate of your family are along for the ride – tricky if your partner is less focused on security and more passionate about freedom.

And I love the way you have noticed that taking action is much easier (and more authentic) when you consciously act from your values – it's difficult to compromise yourself when you are speaking from this place emotionally.

Thank you for all of your comments and the thoughtful discussion Matthew!

As for compromises I think situations that call for compromise are an opportunity to act in alignment with my values. Seriously! How important is that particular movie or restaurant above my value for that person? How important is my opinion and criticism above my role as a loving partner or brother?