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By: When You Think The Law Of Attraction Just Plain Sucks

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By: Natalie Christie

Natalie Christie — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 00:00:21 +0000

Absolutely right Jo – as women especially we love to talk, and there seems to be a certain virtue attached to revealing our pain to another woman. As if by the act of confiding we are bonding more – and I think this is sad. Why can’t we achieve the same level of intimacy and closeness with another by sharing our positive experiences? Women cen verge towards being suspicious and even envious of another’s happiness (success, slimness, wealth, beauty – you name it, we go green over it.) So it’s a much better tactic socially to bond over the misery instead…you have the right approach! Focus on the celebration! It may alienate some people, but only the people you don’t need around you in the first place.

By: jo-living savvy

jo-living savvy — Sun, 20 Dec 2009 09:33:54 +0000

There is a tendency to bond over misery. It is so easy to do. I remember a
wonderful sunny day in Brisbane running along the river and eavesdropping into a conversation happening between two other women running. A lot of complaining was going on. I thought a beautiful day, a river, a midday run what is there to complain about. I also acknowledged that if I was running with company other than my children in their pram that my conversation most likely would have had a similar theme. I decided then and there that I was going to be more aware of the bonding over misery trap and focus on the celebration instead. It can be a fine lone though as you do need to spend time getting into a rhythm with the bad stuff and understanding how long you want to dance to that tune before tapping to a different beat.
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By: Coach T.I.A

Coach T.I.A — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 11:49:29 +0000

I so needed this this is what I love about the U – no matter how bad things appear, there`s always a rainbow around the corner. I was sad about some contrast today and it helps to hear `play with it` and love the dysfunctional way in which I work. Thanks for the timely post xo Tia aka @TiaSparkles
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uberVU - social comments — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 02:26:07 +0000

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By: Jeanne Demers

Jeanne Demers — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 01:20:09 +0000

I think this: I think sometimes life sends you a nasty zinger that rocks your reality at a particular time SO THAT a blog post like this can have maximum impact.

If I’d read this post last week I’d have gone, “Oh, very cool. Nice.” Today I’m reading it going, “Oh! Yes! Let it be TRUE that while I’m in a hell in my head, “a better and more perfect version” is also happening… and I just need to tune in over there!”

If this is true (and I feel its truth) then… it’s about *practicing* this way of relating to the little hell I’m in. How completely empowering. And so much more than a lesson in perspective; it’s about skillful means. Making hellishly hard stuff fun is skillful. I wasn’t being at all skillful until I read this. Now I’m all over it.

I CAN “honour it for what it illuminates for me.” I CAN use it “as a focusing tool”. I CAN “get jiggy” with it!

Exponential thanks, Natalie. Truly truly )) .

By: Brett - DareToExpress.com

Brett - DareToExpress.com — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 23:55:33 +0000

Heeeeeeey Christie,

Most often, when we just learn to roll with the bad stuff life throws at us, we can quickly convert them to good things – all that matters is if we don’t resist.

This concept always reminds me of an old Taoist story, which went somewhere along the lines of this:

A farmer (in some instances a Zen Master) has but one horse, and one day it ran away. Everyone in the village says, “Oh, how awful!” The farmer just smiles slightly and says, “We’ll see.”

One day, the horse returns, bringing two other beautiful horses with it. The villagers say, “How wonderful!” The farmer just smiles slightly and says, “We’ll see.”

A week later, the farmer’s son was thrown off of one of the new horses and ended up breaking his leg. The villagers say, “How dreadful!” And the farmer smiles slightly and says, “We’ll see.”

The next week, a war broke out, and every man of ability was drafted into the army. But, due to his broken leg, the farmer’s son wasn’t able to go. The villagers say, “How wonderful!” But the farmer still smiles and says, “We’ll see.”

Here, the good and the bad cannot be distinguished, in a way. “Good” fortune leads to “bad” which then leads to “good”. But is any of it really good or bad?

We’ll see.

Have a great day!
Brett
Brett – DareToExpress.com´s last blog ..What Is “Difficult”?

By: Bert Meert

Bert Meert — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 19:09:24 +0000

Most people feel miserable about “the bad stuff” they experience, because they continue to market it to themselves as such. Where one man sees problems and everlasting struggle, someone else is facing the same thing but sees exciting challenges and opportunities.

Unfortunately, those who complain the most are also the ones who are changing the least. They are merely illustrating their inability to take matters into their own hands to change that which they feel doesn’t work.

To complain for the sake of complaining = zero value, therefore zero results. To complain and actually do something about it… that is a completely different story…
Bert Meert´s last blog ..The Power Of Imagination