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Growing & Learning

It was just after 4am. Hubby and I turned on the football to hear what sounds like the biggest, angriest bee hive in the universe.

Hubby had his Italian head on, wherein he reverts to his Neapolitan genetic heritage like a true Mamma’s boy and starts shouting “Viva, Italia!” and “My son, he will play football!” Sweet.

As we settled in with hot coffee and the promise of a great game, it was time for the national anthems. The cameraman stood poised at the top of the Italian lineup as they jiggled and jumped in their boots, all tattoos and tanned swarthiness.

The Italian anthem with all its brass flag-waving jauntiness kicks in…

And we were stunned to see the boys singing at the tops of their voices.

No mumbling, shifty attempts to lip-synch their way around having to look patriotic. No silent, steely-eyed gaze that said I’m Too Focused On Winning To Sing (but really I don’t know the words and I’m also worried the camera will pick up how crap my voice is.) No half-arsed squeeking here!

Never before had we witnessed such vocal abandon! Lustily they plowed on, hairy eyebrows raised sky-high on the high notes. Big, puffed out chests, clear diction and even a brave stab at staying perfectly in time with the backing track.

God knows how nervous they were. Defending champions. Pressure to be glamorous and flamboyant and technically awesome. Millions of people tuning in to watch their performance.

Could there be any more eyes on you than this?

What better way to channel all of that adreneline than to sing?

You don’t have to be a tightly-wound football player on the world stage to experience a little stage fright of your own. That feeling of psychotic-butterflies on caffeine overload having a debauched rave in the pit of your stomach? It’s normal when we are faced with something our lizard brain is trying to get us to run the hell away from.

That crazy sick oh-shit feeling you have is adrenaline that has got to go somewhere. You are now a can of Coke that has been violently shaken by the Bad Ass Fear Fairy and that level of frothy scare needs to be let out. It’s a huge amount of raw energy that needs something to do.

Singing is perfect because it channels your fear.

When you’re nervous and terrified and you start to sing, it’s impossible to stay nervous and terrified. You might start like a mouse, with a whisper and a blushing croak. But once you hit your stride, try staying scared now. :)

There’s nothing to be scared of. Deep down you know that life’s just a game.

The whole of it. This football match. That stressful deadline. The oh-shit-I-must-do-something-meaningful-with-my-talents drama.

If the nerves and the stage-fright are kicking in and you feel yourself bobbing up and down in your shoes desperate to start running in the opposite direction, why not take a tip from the Italian boys and start singing? Something, anything? Put on a song and sing your heart out. Or play the tune in your head and karaoke wildly along with it.

Let the fear go with a song!

Comments – Sing It Back To Me

Can you choose something that becomes your Anthem For Fear-Busting? Is there a fizzy build-up of fear that you could dissipate with a little random, unabashed karaoke?

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Me and My Shadow

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Have you ever caught yourself projecting? I mean, when you notice that you’re actively judging someone for something that you should really be working on yourself?
Like criticising your parents for hoarding and never being able to just let go of things. Despite the fact that every drawer of your desk is filled with clippings and [...]

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Can We Stop Talking About Stuck, Please?

As some of you may have noticed, stuck is the word of the year so far.
Look, there’s Stuck on the red carpet! And on the cover of Help! magazine. Here’s a a really dodgy picture of a topless Stuck smooching with someone on a beach. (In fact, there’s probably someone feeling Stuck right now.)
Yes, indeed. [...]

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Are You Ready To Give Yourself Permission? Part One – Why I’m Mad At My Kids

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“If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.” ~ Robert Fritz.
“It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” – J.K. Rowling

I read a tweet first thing today that went [...]

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Backyard Awesome Fear Wrangling With Catherine Caine

Yesterday I had the pleasure of having a lazy lunch with the rather awesometastic Catherine Caine! Today is her birthday and she is celebrating by releasing her new product, aptly named “Awesome Fear Wrangling – Tame Your Website Fears, Grow An Awesome Website”.
When I started my blog, I had all sorts of fear and scarey [...]

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Probably The Most Valuable Piece Of Advice I Have Ever Received

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I had the privilege when I was 20 years old of learning from the stupendous Dame Joan Sutherland. She was a vocal titan, but in person remarkably grounded in an earthy, no nonsense Australian diva kind of way.
I would start to sing a phrase and she would interject with probably the most valuable piece of [...]

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Why You Need A Strategy And A Perfect Chocolate Biscuit

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Lately, I’ve been trying to lose weight.
Mainly because one of the blissful side-effects of babydom is a little extra padding – like everywhere.
Five months has passed since baby was born (five months! Where did that go???) and I’m bloody bored of wearing the same three slouchy t-shirts and my lifesaving spotty wrap dress. (I swear [...]

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The Success Is In The Snowballs

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We’ve all had them. A big, chewy, hole-in-the-stomach failure. The kind of screw-up that you can only successfully make in front of everyone.
When you have just so completely gotten it wrong that when the thought of it creeps into your head (usually just before you go to sleep) it’s like an [...]

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Looking For Clues

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Last month, on a gloriously warm Easter Sunday morning, my husband and I hid tiny chocolate eggs in the bushes in our garden.
I watched as he led my second child – a petite 2 year old diva in the making – on an intrepid search…Daddy told her they were “looking for clues” as they walked [...]

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How To Get Past Your Well-Meaning Fears

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Have you ever used one of those draught excluders that look like long snakes? They lie across the floor along the bottom of gappy doors to stop the cold air sneaking inside.
When I lived in the UK, these snakes were really important, especially in those deep winter nights when the tip of my nose would [...]

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When You Think The Law Of Attraction Just Plain Sucks

Two years ago today, I almost died.
But then I’ve actually almost died, like, three times. (And those are just the times I know about. I have no idea how many other potential brushes with death I have had. Probably loads. Who knows?)
The first was when I got stuck into my parent’s cask white wine in [...]

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The Creativity Myth: Why Anyone Can Be An Artist

OK. You heard it here first, baby.
I can offically announce that opera is now the new rock and roll.
I’m sure it all started when I had a tweet from the lovely Reese (web designer extraordinare) in January, who confessed that she had almost gone into singing (I hope she won’t mind me sharing):

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How NOT To Have A Nervous Breakdown

(Warning: there are a few swear words in this post. Eek, I know! But I couldn’t help it. Apologies if you are easily offended.)
You may remember that I’m currently dealing with a slippery fear monster who is actually stalking me.
I hear it tapping the windows of my bedroom at night. I’ll be in the [...]

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